You want love you can finally relax into.

INTRODUCING.....

HELD 

A live, grounded experience for women who desire partnership — but are tired of wasting their time and energy on the wrong men, want to trust their intuition again, and long to feel supported and safe in love.

Inside HELD, you become a woman who feels safe being loved — and when that safety is restored in your body, the kind of relationship you desire becomes possible.

APPLLY FOR EARLY ENROLLLMENT

This might be you:

You’re independent, capable, and self-aware.
You’ve built a good life.
You know how to take care of yourself.

And yet — dating...or the idea of putting g yourself out there again feels exhausting.

You keep meeting men who feel promising at first… then confusing.
You don’t want to chase, overthink, or try to “figure someone out” anymore.
You’re tired of spending your time and energy on connections that go nowhere.

You want something steady.
You want to be able to relax.
You want love to feel supportive — not draining.



I'M READY TO BE HELD

“I struggled with the idea of investing in myself. I didn’t want to make the commitment. But now I can honestly say it was the smartest thing I could have done for myself.”

 

 -Kim G (mom & business owner)

Nothing is wrong with you..

You’re not “too independent.”

You’re not closed off.

You’re not bad at relationships.


You learned how to protect your time, your energy, and your heart. And that protection made sense.

Dating didn’t create this exhaustion.

It brought it into focus.

 

At some point, your body learned:

  • getting close can lead to disappointment

  • consistency isn’t guaranteed

  • love can change without warning

So now, even when you want partnership, your body stays alert.

That’s why:

  • Its challenging to attract a consistent man because your body is so used to what feels "familiar" which is inconsistency 

  • When you are getting to know a man you're on the look out for changes in behavior or actions because you're mind, body and energy is trying to protect itself from being let down.

  • Its feels safer or easier to be alone because you value your own peace but at the same time aren't even sure how you would find the time or energy to date 

Which all of this is valid.....
But at the same time you're a very smart woman and know that deep down theres a part of you that wants to rely on a man and feel deeply loved.

HELD isn’t about pushing you back into dating.

Inside HELD you’ll retrain your nervous system to a “new familiar” pattern to recognize calm and safety as your new normal  So that you naturally attract a man who is supportive, brings peace in your life and you can trust.

Inside HELD, we slow things down.

Not with more information.
Not with more strategies.
But with real-time nervous system recalibration.

 

Inside HELD, we don’t start with your dating profile.

We start with your armor.

Each week you enter a regulated room.
We ground first.
We soften your jaw, your chest, your urgency.
And then we open one emotional doorway at a time.

We uncover:
• where you learned to use emotion to secure love
• where you pull away to regain control
• where you over-function to avoid being disappointed
• how your nervous system confuses calm with boring

This isn’t mindset work.
It’s pattern interruption in real time.

You won’t be given modules to binge.
You won’t be handed scripts to memorize.

You’ll experience:
- live co-regulation
- honest emotional reflection
- gentle confrontation of survival strategies
- one embodied experiment each week
- tangible practices you take into real dates

Because clarity doesn’t come from thinking more.

It comes from no longer needing to use emotion to control connection.

Inside HELD, we don’t "fix you" because you're not broken.
We update the strategies your nervous system built years ago.

So when consistency shows up…
it feels safe.

When a man leads…
your body doesn’t tighten.

When you express emotion…
it’s clean — not leverage.

This isn’t about “doing dating better.”

It’s about becoming a woman who no longer has to doubt her intuition, her worth, or her place in someone’s life.

The HELD Method™

HELD follows a 3-step nervous system recalibration process:

✦

Regulate

Before we discuss dating, we settle your body.

Because you cannot choose securely from a braced state.

Each session begins with grounding, softening, and co-regulation.

You learn how safety feels — not just what it sounds like.

✦

Reveal

We gently uncover the emotional strategies you built to survive love.

Not to shame them.

To update them.

You’ll see where you:
- escalate to be heard
- withdraw to regain power
- over-give to secure closeness
- suppress emotion to avoid rejection

This is awareness without judgment.

✦

 

Rewire

You leave every session with one embodied experiment.

Not homework.

Not journaling pages.

A lived practice.

Something you take into real conversations, real dates, real moments.

Small shifts.
Big recalibration.

 

Why HELD Is Different

Most programs teach:

  • Boundaries

  • Attachment styles

  • Communication scripts

But they don’t change what happens in your body.

Very few explore how your nervous system learned to use emotion to stay safe —
to escalate, withdraw, over-function, or suppress.

And even fewer teach this without shame.

Inside HELD, we don’t just talk about the pattern.

We feel it.

We notice where it lives in your body.
We slow it down in real time.
And each week, you leave with one tangible shift to practice in real life.

This isn’t insight for insight’s sake.

It’s nervous system recalibration you can actually experience.

So you don’t just understand your patterns.

You move beyond them.

Be honest....have you said this... 

"Dating is rough"

You know you are a very desirable woman so its rough when you are getting ghosted by guys. Or even when you get your hopes up for a date only to find out that you're not that into him. So now you probably find yourself wishing that the right man would just come up to you already.

"I'm tired of wasting my time and energy"

Your a busy and highly motivated woman so it can be frustrating when you took time and energy away from things like your business or family to go out on dates only for it to go nowhere. So now you probably find yourself thinking it would be fun to try but based on what you have experienced...you think: "Is it even worth it."

It's uncomfortable when a man actually wants to help me"

You are so used to holding things down for yourself. In fact you carry a lot behind the scenes that most people wouldn't realize. So its hard to receive help or support especially from a man because you cant trust if he's being genuine or just trying to get something out of you.

HELD is the space where you get to experience what it really feels like

 

• To trust your intuition — instead of analyzing his tone, rereading messages, wondering if you’re “too much,” or convincing yourself you’re overreacting when something feels off.

• To feel true peace in your body — not the subtle tightness in your chest when he pulls away, not the urge to over-explain, not the quiet fear that if you relax, you’ll get hurt.

• To have your energy and joy restored — so dating no longer feels like an emotional performance, a strategy game, or something you need to “optimize” the way you do your business.

• To be chosen by a man who shares your vision and values — not someone you’re slowly teaching how to show up, not someone emotionally unavailable, not someone you feel responsible for managing.

• To soften without losing your standards — to let a man lead without feeling weak, to receive without guilt, to rest without fearing he’ll disappear.

HELD isn’t about becoming someone new.

It’s about becoming the woman who no longer feels like she has to hold everything together in love.

The woman who is powerful in her world
and relaxed in her relationship.

“This work gave me the space to go deeper than I ever had before — and in a matter of weeks, I processed more than I had in 4 years of therapy."

“I thought I had done the healing. What I didn’t realize was that I had only scratched the surface. This work gave me the space to go deeper than I ever had before — and in a matter of weeks, I processed more than I had in 4 years of therapy. You can’t outthink deeply held wounds. You have to feel safe enough to move through them.”

- Sara I (business owner & mom)

“Mary, brought to light a pattern that has been my whole existence that I never saw before. She blew my mind and it low the door open on something that requires the deepest healing.”

"Mary is beyond insightful and masterful as a coach. I have done years and year of therapy.
I have been working on myself, personal development and spirituality for over a decade. Mary, brought to light a pattern that has been my whole existence that I never saw before. She blew my mind and it low the door open on something that requires the deepest healing. I didn't know that depth existed. She is incredible. Don't hesitate, book her as your coach. She is masterful, loving and a level of intuitive that I haven't experience in a
coach/therapist before."

- Ashleigh H (business owner & actress)

HELD is the foundation.

 

This is the space where you rebuild trust — with yourself first. So when you move into dating or deeper partnership, you’re not leading with fear, tension, or over-efforting.

You’re leading with calmness and steadiness.

I AM READY
HELD is about the love you desire. And expanding your capacity to feel safe enough to receive it.

 

HELD shifts the kind of men you entertain, the dynamics you allow, and the energy you respond to. Not because you’re trying harder.

But because a woman who is HELD has her energy, joy, intuition, and desire for love restored.

You may have already tried:

• Listening to podcasts that leave you feeling optimistic in the moment, only for that feeling to fade when reality sets back in.

• Taking advice from friends, family, or influencers because they’re in relationships and seem confident, even though what worked for them doesn’t necessarily work for you.

• Changing up your dating profile or going on dates with “different types” of men because you’re willing to try something new, only to leave feeling discouraged when he’s into you and you wish you felt the same.

• Taking a break from dating altogether, secretly hoping you’ll just bump into him at a coffee shop because that would feel easier, more romantic, less exhausting.
But deep down knowing that if your nervous system doesn’t feel safe, even the right man could approach you and something inside might still shut down.

• Maybe you’ve even tried therapy because you’ve been through real things, and while talking it through helped you understand yourself, it didn’t fully change how your body reacts when you start to care.

And yet…

The same patterns keep resurfacing.
The same dynamics feel familiar.
Your body still tightens when you begin to like someone.

Because insight alone doesn’t rewire familiarity.

HELD is different.

We don’t just analyze your patterns.
We slow them down in real time.
We feel where they live in your body.
We unlock the wisdom those emotions are trying to show you.
And we gently retrain your nervous system to experience connection differently.

So you’re not “doing dating better.”

You’re becoming unavailable for what once felt normal.

And available for the kind of love that feels steady, safe, and deeply mutual.

The Shift You’ll Feel by the End of HELD

 

In 90 days, you’ll notice yourself responding differently.

Whether you’re actively dating or simply preparing yourself for aligned partnership, inside HELD you’ll begin to notice:

• You don’t spiral after a date — or fantasize about one interaction for days.
• You don’t reread messages looking for hidden meaning.
• You don’t over-function when someone pulls back.
• You don’t feel panic when you start to care.
• You don’t confuse anxiety with intuition.
• You don’t need constant reassurance from friends.
• You don’t tolerate inconsistency just because you like the idea of someone.

Because when a woman stops chasing:

• She stops over-texting.
• She stops over-explaining.
• She stops initiating everything.
• She stops trying to convince.
• She stops auditioning.
• She stops managing the dynamic.

And her energy changes.

• She no longer feels emotionally drained by the idea of dating.
• She’s not mentally preoccupied with “when will I meet him?”
• She doesn’t feel like love is something she has to earn.
• She feels steadier in her body.
• She brings calm into connection instead of urgency.

She doesn’t grip.

She doesn’t chase.

She chooses.

APPLY FOR HELD
EARLY ENROLLMENT

Early Enrollment is for women who feel the resonance now —
who recognize they’re ready, who see this as a priority,
and who want to commit to experiencing love differently.

And who want to step into HELD at a supported, founding rate.

As a thank-you for joining in this first round,
Early Enrollment includes a special price that won’t be offered again.

There’s no pressure.
Just an invitation.

 

HELD PROGRAM DETAILS 

This is a 90-Day Soft Unfolding.

Not a rush.
Not a reset.
Not a “fix yourself” sprint.

But three months of steady, gentle recalibration in love.

We meet bi-weekly in an intimate live space
where we ground first, open one emotional layer at a time, and allow what’s been tight to soften gradually.

Before the group journey fully begins, every woman receives a private 1:1 foundation session with me.

This is where we:

• Map your unique patterns
• Identify where your nervous system tightens in connection
• Clarify what love truly means to you
• Set a grounded intention for the 90 days ahead

Between calls, you’re supported inside a private community
a space to share what’s unfolding, receive reflection, and stay connected to the work without pressure.

This rhythm is intentional.

Because nervous systems don’t change through intensity.
They change through safety, repetition, and time.

HELD gives you all three.

 

Choose Your Level of Support

HELD - VIP (1:1 private coaching calls + bi-weekly group calls + 1:1 weekly private support + community)

HELD - GROUP EXPERIENCE ( bi-weekly group calls + community)

Because HELD is intentionally intimate (no more than 10 women), every woman inside matters deeply.

Mary values depth over volume. Presence over pressure. Transformation over trends.

If you feel called to this space, you’re invited to apply.

Applications ensure that every woman inside is aligned, committed, and ready to do this work at a deeper level.

This isn’t for everyone.
It’s for the woman who is ready.

 

HELD — VIP (1:1 + Group)

 

For the woman who wants personalized guidance
and deeper nervous system work.

Everything in Included:

✦ 3 additional private 1:1 sessions with Mary

✦ 1 Customized 1:1 Nervous System Mapping Session

✦ Private Whatsapp/voice support for Personalized integration guidance

✦ 12 weeks inside HELD

✦ Bi-Weekly live group calls

✦ Integration practices between calls

✦ Private community support

INVESTMENT OPTIONS (SPECIAL FOUNDING RATE):

PAY IN FULL: $3,297

PAYMENT PLAN: $1,150 x 3 monthly payments

APPLY HERE

HELD — Group Experience

 

For the woman who wants to recalibrate in community — without losing her independence

Everything in Included:

✦ 12 weeks inside HELD

✦ Bi-Weekly live group calls

✦ 1 Customized 1:1 Nervous System Mapping Session

✦ Private community support

✦ Integration practices between calls

INVESTMENT OPTIONS (SPECIAL FOUNDING RATE):

PAY IN FULL: $1,997

PAYMENT PLAN: $750 x 3 monthly payments

APPLY HERE
Meet Your Guide:

One of my earliest memories is being about four years old in a 7-Eleven with my mom.

The woman behind the counter was smiling at me, trying to get me to smile back and say hi. She even offered me candy if I would.

But...I refused.

(Though to my surprise, she gave me the candy anyway.)

That little girl was reserved. Observant. Always scanning the room. Watching. Not quite relaxing.

And if I’m honest… I was like that for most of my life.

I was the girl who held everything in.

As I grew up, people would tell me, “You keep everything inside.”

Crying felt foreign.
Speaking up felt risky.
Letting people see what I was really feeling didn’t feel safe.

I grew up with divorced parents, so a healthy, secure relationship wasn’t modeled for me.

What was modeled?

Be independent.
Don’t rely on anyone.
Work hard.
Handle it yourself.

So that’s what I did.

On the outside, I was confident.
Driven.
Positive.
The upbeat friend who “had her life together.”

But when it came to dating, something felt uneasy.

I was closed off. Guarded. Self-protective.

What I didn’t understand then — and what you’ll uncover inside HELD — is how we unconsciously use emotional strategies to stay safe.

For me, being “closed off” wasn’t strength.

It was protection.

Deep in my subconscious was a quiet fear of abandonment.

And even deeper than that was the meaning I had attached to it:

“If someone gets close and leaves… it must mean I’m not good enough.”

I wasn’t consciously thinking that.....

But my nervous system was.

And until you gently examine the patterns playing out beneath the surface, you can keep attracting different men… and still feel the same.

This is why dating can feel exhausting, confusing, disappointing, or like you’re constantly trying to get it right.

It’s not that you’re doing it wrong.

It’s that something inside still feels unsafe.

This is the work I care about deeply.

I don’t just teach strategy.

I guide you into the hidden places — the ones carrying shame, fear, or the quiet “I’m not enough” story you didn’t even realize was running.

And I do it gently.

Because I’ve walked through it myself.

Today, I’m engaged to the most incredible man. We’re getting married in the summer of 2027, and we’ve built a life that feels steady, mutual, and deeply accepting.

One of my favorite things about my fiancé is how fully he loves me.

On my confident days.
And on the days when I need to cry, vent, and feel like a mess.

He accepts all of me.

And that is a direct reflection of me learning to accept all of me.

My hope for you is that you trust your intuition enough to take this next step.

I cannot wait for the day you come onto a call and say,
“Mary… I met him.”

Because it is possible.

And you don’t have to keep doing it alone.

- Mary McMonagle

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

If You’re Still Here…

Something in you recognizes this.

Not urgency.
Not pressure.
But a quiet knowing.

You don’t need more advice.
You don’t need to analyze yourself more.
You don’t need to try harder.

You’re ready to experience love differently.

HELD is an intimate, curated container designed for women who are willing to move slowly, honestly, and steadily toward the kind of partnership they truly desire.

If that feels aligned, I invite you to apply.

We’ll explore it together and see if this is the right next step for you.

I would be honored to hold you in this work.

APPLY FOR HELD